Archive - Recalculating, by Ignacio Pereyra

The Invisible Labor of Motherhood: Confronting the Guilt Gap Between Men and Women

The guilt gap. Women, “anxious” and “exaggerated”, can you step to the side? Men, “comfortable and relaxed,” step in and do what feels uncomfortable…

Nov 6 •

Ignacio Pereyra

October 2024

Focusing on what’s most important

An anti-romantic weekend. A stolen phone and a happy BBQ. Drama, death, and magic. I hope my children will remember the time spent with me as the most…

Oct 23 •

Ignacio Pereyra

Public complaint, private joy

There is social honour in following a prestigious career. Yet while the pleasures of parenting are profound, they are also private.

Oct 9 •

Ignacio Pereyra

September 2024

A son with a fractured arm. The other is adapting to the nursery. My projects, postponed. We don't care because we love, we love because we care.

Sep 25 •

Ignacio Pereyra

Thinking About My Late Parents On A Nostalgic Morning

As a father, I go back to the role of son for a while and discover things about my parents. Their music, habits and upbringing. Is it harder now to be a…

Sep 11 •

Ignacio Pereyra

August 2024

I am not afraid of anything

We say one thing, and feel another. How important do you find talking about things — does it feel like you’re exposing yourself and accepting your…

Aug 28 •

Ignacio Pereyra

Why Men Think They Can Always Beat Women

Nick Cave, God's whispers and intuition. Why does a guy challenge an athlete? Playing against Serena Williams. Son and mixed soccer. I want help, but I…

Aug 14 •

Ignacio Pereyra

July 2024

How Our Hidden Talents Go Unnoticed In A Result-Focused World

Short, light newsletter. Asymmetry between the result and the process. Son wants to bury me in the garden. Do cell phones make us stupid?

Jul 31 •

Ignacio Pereyra

Cleansed community, let’s keep the conversation going

Turn-offs: boasting about sex with partners, and men talking about men…

Jul 19 •

Ignacio Pereyra

June 2024

With No Intimacy And Sad Penises

A Colombian journalist recounts his sexual traumas. Men lack intimacy with each other. Partners are not our therapists.

Jun 28 •

Ignacio Pereyra

A father to a five year old: don’t quit on a bad day

My eldest told me he wanted to quit going to football training. “When something feels hard, the mind and body resist because they seek comfort”.

Jun 5 •

Ignacio Pereyra

May 2024

The importance of being in the tunnel

Does how we parent influence anything? A father beat his son in public. Enough of saying, "At least I'm not as bad as that guy!". Folks, let's get into…

May 15 •

Ignacio Pereyra

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