Archive - Recalculating, by Ignacio Pereyra

Basic Man, Applauded Dad?

Reflections on six years as the primary caregiver to my two sons while my partner advanced her career. My decision has sparked praise and skepticism…

Jun 18 •

Ignacio Pereyra

Caring Isn’t A Bonus: It Should Be Part Of A Man’s Identity

How do we incorporate care into our identity? Why I am in favour of men who provide care. “It’s not something automatic or instinctive – it takes a lot…

Jun 4 •

Ignacio Pereyra

May 2025

What Happens to A Man’s Brain When He Becomes A Father?

You’re not born a parent — you become one. And while having children undoubtedly comes with its costs, could it also bring unexpected benefits?

May 21 •

Ignacio Pereyra

Shadows over childhood

Parents throwing punches. The ways we try to coexist. Bill Watterson and ambition. Calvin & Hobbes and the adult world. Do kids worsen our quality of…

May 7 •

Ignacio Pereyra

April 2025

An unexplored galaxy

Sexuality, homosexuality, adolescence, and curiosity. Whatever it is we stop ourselves from doing, ends up becoming a way of not feeling — because…

Apr 23 •

Ignacio Pereyra

Sketching the Familiar from Elche

Intimate and universal. Presenting two papers in Spain. From the Boom generation to the “padritores”. Partnerships, children, and reshuffling the deck…

Apr 9 •

Ignacio Pereyra

March 2025

Babies, mums and dads: myths and problematic lies

The maternal instinct scam. What changed with fatherhood? That we don’t have sex like before. Seriously? Yes, she doesn’t want to. Why is it like that?

Mar 26 •

Ignacio Pereyra

Family or nuclear bomb?

When it comes to parental burnout, you don’t have to feel alone or isolated. Theories on how couples make it. A trip out to the cinema, and a wager.

Mar 12 •

Ignacio Pereyra

February 2025

A Critique of Brevity, from the Hospital

My son ate a toxic berry—parenting, worry, and the weight of getting it right. Loneliness, the pains we can’t prevent, and small moments that reshape…

Feb 26 •

Ignacio Pereyra

Writing about children

“There are no rational answers; there is something that borders on mystery, and fundamentally, being a father or mother reconciles us with the mystery.”

Feb 12 •

Ignacio Pereyra

January 2025

From New York to Utah: a father in transition

Saying goodbye to what you love is okay. “Being a parent is humbling.” Guest author Dan Oshinsky.

Jan 29 •

Ignacio Pereyra

The intensity of the present continuous

We’re not exaggerating, we’re fathering. Moments of terrifying anxiety and – spoiler, because we don’t need suspense here — a happy ending.

Jan 15 •

Ignacio Pereyra

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