Recalculating, by Ignacio Pereyra

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Am I going to need a papá when I am older?
My older son discovers a growing world outside of our small family and asks himself more and more questions. And I navigate in the uncertainty of the…
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Speaking about death with my son
My oldest son has been coming back to the topic of death over the last few months, as we have walked and played and shared meals together. I can only…
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Fragments of days
My family and I are in Argentina, where we haven't been back since before the pandemic. Some thoughts from across the ocean.
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Speaking about death with my son
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Are we men ready for fatherhood to change who we are?
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Federer and Nadal were celebrated for showing emotion, but not all men would be
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As best as I can right now
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Less policing, more dancing
Why do we get so embarrassed about dancing? A seemingly fleeting thing that happened to me when I was younger haunts me more than I thought it would…
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Fatherhood and traveling alone: navigating life's contradictions
My family is staying at home while I go to Naples for some paperwork and I have mixed feelings: freedom, homesickness and nostalgia. I want to leave…
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Why Are We Still Telling Our Children That Pink Is For Girls?
I thought this whole division of colors and toys for boys and girls was a thing of the past. Turns out I was way wrong.
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Changes with fatherhood: making the journey more fun
My dad talks to me in my sleep. My therapist asks me what I am defending myself against. What used to be a demand is now an understanding. What do I do…
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My sons’ first World Cup: I am still celebrating. Why shouldn’t I?!
Hugs that I will not forget. There will always be contradictions. What is the point of winning the World Cup? Messi and the utopia of fighting together…
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Can men help breastfeed their children?
In a tribe in central Africa, male and female roles are practically interchangeable in caregiving to children. I wonder now if I would ever let León try…
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As best as I can right now
The family has expanded: welcome, León! Cutting the umbilical cord. Paths of milk and honey. O Leãozinho: thank you Caetano Veloso. Uncertainty. Doubts…
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Recalculating, by Ignacio Pereyra
Masculinity, fatherhood and identity crisis. Men and fathers, let’s talk.
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