Recalculating, by Ignacio Pereyra

Recalculating, by Ignacio Pereyra

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Basic Man, Applauded Dad?
Reflections on six years as the primary caregiver to my two sons while my partner advanced her career. My decision has sparked praise and skepticism…
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Caring Isn’t A Bonus: It Should Be Part Of A Man’s Identity
How do we incorporate care into our identity? Why I am in favour of men who provide care. “It’s not something automatic or instinctive – it takes a lot…
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What Happens to A Man’s Brain When He Becomes A Father?
You’re not born a parent — you become one. And while having children undoubtedly comes with its costs, could it also bring unexpected benefits?
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What Happens to A Man’s Brain When He Becomes A Father?
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Babies, mums and dads: myths and problematic lies
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This is where Recalculating begins
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A diary of fatherhood
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When A Baby Is Born, So Is A Father
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Writing about children
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Shadows over childhood
Parents throwing punches. The ways we try to coexist. Bill Watterson and ambition. Calvin & Hobbes and the adult world. Do kids worsen our quality of…
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An unexplored galaxy
Sexuality, homosexuality, adolescence, and curiosity. Whatever it is we stop ourselves from doing, ends up becoming a way of not feeling — because…
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Sketching the Familiar from Elche
Intimate and universal. Presenting two papers in Spain. From the Boom generation to the “padritores”. Partnerships, children, and reshuffling the deck…
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Babies, mums and dads: myths and problematic lies
The maternal instinct scam. What changed with fatherhood? That we don’t have sex like before. Seriously? Yes, she doesn’t want to. Why is it like that?
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Family or nuclear bomb?
When it comes to parental burnout, you don’t have to feel alone or isolated. Theories on how couples make it. A trip out to the cinema, and a wager.
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A Critique of Brevity, from the Hospital
My son ate a toxic berry—parenting, worry, and the weight of getting it right. Loneliness, the pains we can’t prevent, and small moments that reshape…
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Writing about children
“There are no rational answers; there is something that borders on mystery, and fundamentally, being a father or mother reconciles us with the mystery.”
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Recalculating, by Ignacio Pereyra
Recalculating, by Ignacio Pereyra
Masculinity, fatherhood and identity crisis. Men and fathers, let’s talk.
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